What do you do when you need to plan a party, you don't have an oven, and your house is turned upside down?
Go to Yummy Cakes! Mmm, delicious and I love their little cakes that you can buy with many flavors.
With the start of a new Balcony Girls group this Fall, my daughter and I decided we'd be on a 2-part mission: A quick introductory to Balcony Girls and a combined 13th party for Abby - at the mall - where I didn't have to worry about space or cooking!
Put the treats on a tray, cut into thirds. Bring a bag of water bottles, plates, napkins and paper towels ...
Have fun with my helper-Mom-friend, Cindy ...
And break into some fun with all of the girls!
I am in the process of putting my Balcony Girls' lessons together to make it easier for so many readers who've inquired about this group that I started 4 years ago. This year I actually have 2 groups going, and it's exciting that new lessons are in store!
The motto as before, is very simple. A Balcony Girl knows how to build up and not tear down. To applaud her friend's accomplishments and to be cheering them on!
2 Easy Rules
I came up with 2 easy rules this season.
1. To talk about a certain scenario that happened in school, we will work very hard to leave specific names out of the discussion.
2. Don't talk about BG at school or places where other kids might feel left out.
Moms who are interested in my material are free to start positive groups of fun for their daughters! I'm all for sharing and growing mature and happy girls. I limit the group to a certain number because I feel this number allows for the maximum participation by each girl.
Power of a Circle
I had all the girls link arms and stand in a circle (in the mall!) but had one girl stand out - and try to break into the group. It was impossible to get in. We then talked about the power of a circle, how it feels to be on the outside. Then we pulled another girl out, and the "circle" talked, whispered, and didn't let the girl on the outside hear.
1. How it feels when the circle is so tight you can't break in.
2. How it feels to be on the outside when you don't know what's going on inside!
What you do with the Circle
The "Power" of a circle is not bad, I told the girls. It's very normal for all girls to have some kind of circle of friends. It's what you do with the power that can be bad, or it can be good.
Make it a positive Circle
-Take a good look around you, find someone new to include
-Invite that person back a 2nd time
-Be intentional about talking to other girls
-Watch for mean girls (insecure) or unhealthy dynamics in a group
-Observe the group's reputation, what others think about them
Stop and evaluate
We all have to stop and evaluate at times regarding whether our friends are healthy. Are they the kind that God wants us to have? Do they build up and not tear down?
Keep the circle of friends open, fun, loving, happy, and include a lot of friends! It's really the best way to stay happy and not get sucked into girl drama - cliques and meanness (insecurity).
Abby's 13th - Scavenger Hunt
So the fun continued with a planned hunt in the mall as the girls broke in to 3 teams. Again rules were enforced - no running or loudness, and respectfulness at all time. The girls pulled it off! And just in time to come back for Yummy Cakes and treats.
Again, hospitality doesn't have to only happen in our homes.
We can reach out and give out in many ways--little ways to make a difference in the lives of young ladies is essential!
I'd love to hear your ideas of sharing with young girls--or if you desire to, maybe you already do--and what activities you do to make a positive difference?