tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post5480066763152868559..comments2023-11-02T03:35:19.455-07:00Comments on 4 Reluctant Entertainers Has Moved!: Too Much Tradition?Sandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08910644413175366761noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-69787888449596437422007-12-03T09:12:00.000-08:002007-12-03T09:12:00.000-08:00This was such a great blog and so helpful as a new...This was such a great blog and so helpful as a new mom and wife. I have been stressing over cramming in all my husband's family traditions and my own. Plus we are doing an early Christmas with his family then flying to the east coast to spend Christmas day with mine and planning a day to do our own little one... it's enough to make you cry! I am seriously going to go through those questions you posed and come up with our own unique less stressful holiday plan. Great post. Blessings!Jen(n)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06781017443485162668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-87813058097637399102007-12-02T17:54:00.000-08:002007-12-02T17:54:00.000-08:00What a perfect post! Traditions can be fabulous t...What a perfect post! Traditions can be fabulous things when done in the right spirit and for the right reasons. And never be scared to change the traditions around or give some of them up.An Ordinary Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497066145696617241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-69416513173222359002007-12-02T12:48:00.000-08:002007-12-02T12:48:00.000-08:00This really resonats for me today. I'm giving up ...This really resonats for me today. I'm giving up my tradition of making holidays cards and just ordering up a photo card with kodak. Everyone is shocked at my decision but I feel great about it. I needed to not be stressed out about the cards this year. I want to be focused on my family's advent tradition beginning. I feel good and maybe, in a few years, I'll pick it up again.<BR/><BR/>Cheers! LALAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17732319562205414532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-57788666931330831842007-12-01T01:56:00.000-08:002007-12-01T01:56:00.000-08:00I am going to have to blog about this too, if you ...I am going to have to blog about this too, if you don't mind. Today after 31 years of fresh cut trees, I bought a Costco pre lit tree........ I hope I can not be grumpy about it. I am so bad when it comes to traditions. I have cut back, but still the tree, this one it tough. Hope I don’t change my mind and return it…a woman who ishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17136374470040601602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-62593168197972716042007-11-29T13:08:00.000-08:002007-11-29T13:08:00.000-08:00I just happened upon your blog and I LOVED this po...I just happened upon your blog and I LOVED this post! What great advice.Valariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11778600453227616126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-36172313553694600092007-11-29T09:51:00.000-08:002007-11-29T09:51:00.000-08:00Very true! Sometimes husbands and wives try to ke...Very true! Sometimes husbands and wives try to keep doing the same traditions their families did, instead of creating their own. I just have to say, - that room your tree is in - beautiful. I love rooms with big windows, and you have it decorated so nice.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13164420416881517854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-9411994707298192352007-11-29T09:40:00.000-08:002007-11-29T09:40:00.000-08:00What excellent points you make here! Being one th...What excellent points you make here! Being one that didn't even decorate for Chrismtas last year due to life issues, I couldn't agree more! <BR/><BR/>Traditions are not meant to make life more stressful... but more memory filled and enjoyable!<BR/><BR/>Do you mind if I link to this post in the near future??Donnettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11692862365425939349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-8637298254364064782007-11-29T08:47:00.000-08:002007-11-29T08:47:00.000-08:00I've been contemplating this a lot lately. We act...I've been contemplating this a lot lately. We actually don't have a lot of traditions, since we're fairly newly married and have a young son. However, I've always dreamed about having traditions and I've kind of been shoving ideas down my husband's throat. He's happy just being together. We didn't have a lot of traditions surrounding Christmas growing up, but I still have fond memories. And, to echo your post below, the details aren't as important as the people anyway. Great reminder.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17786838392389718536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-62703993586864278952007-11-29T08:09:00.000-08:002007-11-29T08:09:00.000-08:00Great reminders. I'm guilty of getting hung up on ...Great reminders. I'm guilty of getting hung up on tradition of my childhood. I'm trying to make an effort to build traditions that fit my family now...not my childhood nostalgia. Thanks for letting me know it's ok!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06987814500457262146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-41335471134012973572007-11-29T08:00:00.000-08:002007-11-29T08:00:00.000-08:00We are so "non-traditional" these days. It seems ...We are so "non-traditional" these days. It seems we have changed a lot of the traditions that were done in our family. Do you mind if I link to your blog and do a post related to yours, if I have time??? It ties in to what I've been thinking about posting and some of your questions or points fit well into what I was considering sharing. Of course, I'd link up and give credit to your questions/thoughts. Please let me know if that would be okay.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-92023218900433265242007-11-29T07:46:00.000-08:002007-11-29T07:46:00.000-08:00Well I hate change as a rule. But this year I kep...Well I hate change as a rule. But this year I kept saying I wanted a new look as far as the decorations go. Not completely new, mind you. But I wanted pretty...not cluttered. So rather than put out every Christmas decoration I own, I simplified. Changed a few things. Spent a total of $30 dollars on materials to make new decorations and I'm thrilled. Nostalgia used to set in and I would HAVE to put that out because, well I have for every year. My son reminded me that I don't HAVE to keep the santa and sleigh on my mantle just because I always have (and consequently always hated it there.) So...if changing your decorating theme constitutes a change in tradition, then I'm with ya babe!<BR/><BR/>Love,<BR/>JulieNunnie's Attichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01865570914346451333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-14599871501521484242007-11-28T19:40:00.000-08:002007-11-28T19:40:00.000-08:00Amen! Sandy, this is the truth that I've been lea...Amen! Sandy, this is the truth that I've been learning over the past couple of years too. If it isn't something that everyone values, it's probably time to let it go. ESPECIALLY when it's dear old Mom doing all the work! I'm looking forward to a fun Christmas doing things that are meaningul to us. I wish the same for you, too!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02085198142422136185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-85514032421076345092007-11-28T18:19:00.000-08:002007-11-28T18:19:00.000-08:00Oh Sandy, you have no idea how much I NEEDED to he...Oh Sandy, you have no idea how much I NEEDED to hear this post!!! I have been majorly stressing!<BR/>I'm serious, you have given me permission to let go of some traditions and I'm feeling so OK with it! <BR/>And I'm the QUEEN of traditions! So this is BIG!<BR/>Thanks you, thank you, soooo much Sandy!linda thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05819203001583691536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-37959574004880701842007-11-28T18:17:00.000-08:002007-11-28T18:17:00.000-08:00Terrific post and boy did you nail it on the head!...Terrific post and boy did you nail it on the head! What happens so often is that we are so busy on auto pilot trying to get everything done that we don't stop to evaluate WHY we are doing the things we are doing. It's so important not to beat ourselves up and know that it is OKAY to change things up if we need to each year. Tradition is great but at what cost?Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15867964298149410340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-20515983892787513382007-11-28T14:26:00.000-08:002007-11-28T14:26:00.000-08:00I just came accross your post and love it. We too ...I just came accross your post and love it. We too love to enterain, though right now we are living with someone else while building a home, so entertaining the past 1 1/2 years hasn't happened as it has in the past. Soon, though, soon!<BR/><BR/>We too had to tweak traditions after we got married..and I'm from a very "tradition" oriented family. But it has been fun to create our own traditions as a family. Clam chowder in bread bowls on Christmas Eve, then driving to look at lights. Fresh cinnamon rolls Christmas morning. Not feeling like we have to be obligated to go anywhere on Christmas.<BR/><BR/>Can't wait to peruse your site more.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>Kirstin <BR/>www.troyerslovinglife.blogspot.comKirstinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17792132554787453551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-72397892020372045322007-11-28T14:11:00.000-08:002007-11-28T14:11:00.000-08:00Great post! I know sometimes we mothers hang on to...Great post! I know sometimes we mothers hang on to traditions that are precious to us but the rest of the family dreads. It's hard to let them go...but sometimes needed!! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-65757977143022374302007-11-28T13:20:00.000-08:002007-11-28T13:20:00.000-08:00You are so right. And that is why everyone enjoys ...You are so right. And that is why everyone enjoys the holidays at first but is bah hum bug by the 15th....I totally agree with you. I enjoy reading with you....I value your opinion.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14341970243162181712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-77142894415573959642007-11-28T12:50:00.000-08:002007-11-28T12:50:00.000-08:00Oh, I'm glad to hear the Christmas letter will app...Oh, I'm glad to hear the Christmas letter will appear here! As soon as you mentioned it, I was going to email you and ask you to send it to me!! I love your writing and Paul's a great author as well -- sarcasm is exactly my kind of humour!!<BR/><BR/>I think for me the hardest thing about Christmas has become the scheduling. We don't live close to our families anymore, so juggling gatherings with our extended families as well as personal schedules is just becoming such a chore. I can't imagine Christmas without seeing all my cousins and uncles and aunts whom I only see once or twice a year, but it might be time to just be okay with giving that up. You know, before I start hating Christmas!tammihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03803890115567631062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-54330057339181629362007-11-28T12:47:00.000-08:002007-11-28T12:47:00.000-08:00It took me years to learn this truth. And I'm stil...It took me <I>years</I> to learn this truth. And I'm still filtering traditions and seeking a balance.<BR/><BR/>Great post. It's all about freedom.Kelly @ Love Wellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18037513409301217473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-66033082910704663882007-11-28T12:28:00.000-08:002007-11-28T12:28:00.000-08:00This is valuable advice your giving. I will keep ...This is valuable advice your giving. I will keep it in mind this year as I go through the holidays.dawn klingehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10068232686648964979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-83505281361434999252007-11-28T10:55:00.000-08:002007-11-28T10:55:00.000-08:00good post-we had to evaluate some traditions latel...good post-<BR/><BR/>we had to evaluate some traditions lately also. my family has 'always' gone to downtown seattle the day after christmas to shop, eat a fancy dinner, and see the tree lighting. since my husband and i met, he has also. well, last year my 2 year old fell asleep at the table during dinner midway thru a bite. it was rainy and difficult to push a stroller through the crowds. this year with another baby we knew we had to say NO when the plans were being made by extended family. i couldn't even imagine manuvering a double stroller!<BR/><BR/>itwas a great decision, instead we went to a tree farm and chopped down a tree, my toddler brought his own tools from his tool bench to help daddy. and we spent the afternoon resting from thanksgiving and putting up decorations. such a better fit for a young family!<BR/><BR/>at first i was really bummed- i loved our old tradition, but instead my husband and i are going to hand the babes to the grandparents for a day and shop together in the city. much better plan!anya*https://www.blogger.com/profile/05893949058312926128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36263828.post-30435962292120948652007-11-28T09:48:00.000-08:002007-11-28T09:48:00.000-08:00That picture is precious just the way it is! lolI ...That picture is precious just the way it is! lol<BR/><BR/>I think if a tradition makes you happy then go with it! On the other hand, if it doesn't, why bother continuing it? New traditions can turn out to be the very best ones because they can be tailored to <I>your</I> indiviual family's needs and wants. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com